“Being happy, doesn’t mean that everything is perfect... 

...It means you decided to look beyond the imperfections.” (Anonymous.)

Yup. That’s right.  Happiness is a personal decision.

I remember when I was watching ‘The Secret’ for the first time.  And many people were expressing gratitude before they got out of bed in the morning. I kept bumping into books for weeks after that said the same thing. Constant reminders everywhere. You just have to be open to it. Or conscious of it.

But how could this be, I thought? My son would get out of bed miserably each weekday. Bitching and complaining from everything under the sun until he left for school. By that time, I was in a frenzy! My nerves were razzled! My heart rate was sky high. How can you choose to be happy when you are faced with this, day in and day out? You must be crazy!  It just doesn’t happen in my household! Really!

And then I pushed that thought to the side.  And kept reading. And reading. A few days later, I discovered something that nearly knocked me off my chair.  A beautiful revelation.  So sweet and pure, and best of all....so true!  It completely saved my life. Not to mention my sanity.  And of course, I’ll share it with you.

Just in case you have to face an unpleasant morning. Kids having ugly moods. Hubby’s or wives having fits. Angry neighbours. Or colleagues or workers. Or... you get the point.  Here’s the trick that saved the day. At least I don’t suffer from my son’s negativity. I don’t hear things that are negative.

You ready for this?  No seriously, now. ...Get ready: It’s personal choice. 

Hey, stop looking behind you as if you missed something.  You haven’t.   Yeah, that’s the answer! It’s just that it’s so simple.  You have to listen very carefully, because it IS SO simple.  It’s choice.  You’re decision. Now how powerful is that? That’s right. Not rocket science my friend.

No, you don’t have to get a new kid. Or headphones to block out the chatter. Or carry a bigger stick, or new ultimatums....you have to choose for yourself not to let the outer world affect your inner happiness.  And when you do.  Yup, when you do this,.. wow!  It’s heaven!

He may still curse at you in the mornings, but you handle it differently.  You choose to be happy in spite of everything. You choose to be happy for you.  And things start to reflect back.

What did you say? That’s right.  They’ll start to change.  You’ll see. It becomes contagious. Sorta infectious. As the world discovers what they dish out your way, negative or positive, somehow it bounces off you.  And you are still happy.  They fight and argue, scream and swear, but you’re still smiling. You seem to be just an observer.  Watching another rerun. ... And so it is. Nothing more than theatrics.

All because you chose to be happy in this moment. It doesn’t get much better than that, my friend! It’s Personal Choice.

Always Expect Miracles,

Inspirational Author,

Kassie Wright

tkwright@xplornet.ca

As always, I welcome your thoughts.

(My inspirational book is now available at http://www.amazon.com/ or .ca

“Always, yes Always EXPECT Miracles! )

What the hell am I doing wrong?!

My hair’s a mess!  Can’t find any clothes to wear! The kids aren’t getting up! The dogs are chasing the cat!  And what the hell are you laughing at?

And Joe Vitale says I attracted it! (Time to read some good books! I thought.) Then I caught myself.  I became aware .  I laughed .(What just happened?) Catch yourself.  Change your thoughts.  Change your life.

...then I found a hair tye.  And my jeans. The kids made it to the bus on time. The cat outsmarted the dogs again. 8am and all is quiet and miraculously sane again.

‘Forgive me for my thoughts’, I said to Mocha, my puppy.  Poured a cup of tea.  Grabbed my book. And sat  by the fire.   Something’s not right.  I am not usually stressed. What is it that I need to learn?  I sat for a moment, quietly.

I felt guilty, knowing it’s after 9 and wasn’t quite yet ready to tackle the world.  But I allow myself this hour each morning, to read.  And no, I don’t feel like getting up at 6 to squeeze my time in.  Just one little idiocyncrasy that I don’t feel the need to change.

Yes, I attracted this, now that I think about it.  I did leave the rollers in too long.  And my closet is a mess.  I let the kids stay up late last night. And I stayed up late too.  That’s it.  Nothing too traumatic.  We all have mornings like this, from time to time.  Don’t we? It’s minor. Trivial. So I let it go. Laughed a bit.

But I can’t stop thinking about other things  we attract. Like wars, car accidents, fights, etc. I am not responsible for this stuff! Am I? No, it’s way too big to even think I had a part in it. Joe Vitale is stretching the Law of Attraction way too far!  How on earth could we be responsible for that?!

I need another tea.  Or something stronger!  Maybe I’ll treat myself to a caffeinated one.  If you promise not to tell... Just a few more fleeting thoughts.  Wait a minute.  If I wasn’t aware of my stupidity this morning, my day would continue totally chaotic. It happened before.  Has this happened to you too? Being able to stand back and laugh.  Just by being aware of what was happening...was enough to control it.  A bystander.  Not giving any emotion to it. Just watching the motions like a film strip.  Amazing!

Just by being aware.  For a second.  And being able to laugh it off.  Change emotions.  Then suddenly everything changes. It’s like putting on a frantic face, and experiencing chaos.  Change it to a happy face, and start laughing and enjoying yourself again. Send out negative vibes, or energy, and you get back the same.  Like a magnet.  Or a mirror.

Now, I’m beginning to see what Joe Vitale means.  Yes, of course I attracted this morning.  And changed my energy.  And am enjoying it better now because of my awareness to change it.(And I thought I was open minded!)

Now that I am on the right track again, explain to me how we attracted the worlds’ mess! The recession, the economic recovery, the wars, the political drama, the sadness, the sickness, etc.  Now that’s hard to swallow.  Yet I’ve read it from many books that say we are to blame. We attracted it through our thoughts. Could this be?  Even scientists back this up.  Are they gone crazy?  I’m educated too.  You don’t expect me to believe this... do you?

‘Individual Responsibility’? you say. (For the worlds’ collective actions?  C’mon now, I wasn’t born yesterday!)Now hear me out. As we each over spend , it creates a global economic epidemic. Through this spending atmosphere, fear spreads and worry sets in. People get scared.  Law of Attraction puts forth what we send the Universe.  More fear.  Fear turns into war, as we hoard what we have.  This insanity causes wars.  And the spiral continues. (Holy sh?t! It does make sense.  It could happen.  But, na’ I wouldn’t say we created it.)

What if I became responsible for my actions.  And took heed in my thoughts and words.  And really did buy into this Law of Attraction stuff.  Always got out of bed happy.  Spread this happiness on to my kids.  They could share it with the bus students.  And their friends at school.  The teachers could catch this happiness and bring it home to their families.  Maybe get on their ipods and emails and spread it a little further.

  What if we made a promise to ourselves, for one day, yup, just one.  There would be no complaining, no gossip, no criticizing, no ridiculing, no bullying ...nothing negative. Only smiling, thinking positive, singing, trying, giving, empathizing, paying it forward, allowing, accepting, ...all those positive happy feelings.   How many people could one person impact? Just think.

It gives me goose bumps to know I could affect hundreds of lives indirectly a day.  Even if I decided to stay indoors today.  And what if you decided to do it with me?  Maybe we could get a few friends to join us.  Maybe I could write an article about this ‘happiness for one day’. Maybe you could share it with your group.  Just maybe it may impact more than we know. Just maybe this positive energy would circulate the globe.

People would spread it even further.  They would be sharing smiles and laughter.  There would be love and peace.  They would be too busy having fun to worry about lack.  There would be plenty to go around for everyone. There would be no arguments because people would be happy.  There would be no jobless, because people would be helping each other. There would be no crime, because people expressed gratitude and were giving back.  There would be no place for war, only peace.  I would want to be responsible for that.  Wouldn’t you?

Now I could picture that scenario if we all worked together and spread happiness. Oh yes, I know you would want recognition for this as well. And Joe Vitale would be right, we did create it. And it began with you and me.  Now that’s amazing!  I know you’d want to take credit for that!

 And it all began with the realization, and I had to ask, ‘What the hell am I doing wrong?’. Humbly, spreading the wrong thoughts, I think. I can change that. We all can.  One person at a time.

Always Expect Miracles,

Kassie Wright

Inspirational Author,

As always, I welcome your thoughts.

To order my inspirational book or ebook, ‘Always, yes Always EXPECT Miracles!’ please go to amazon, authorhouse, chapters  or any major online bookstore worldwide. And enjoy.

 

Say What You MEAN...

Say What You Mean…

And mean what you say. It’s that simple.  Speaks for itself.  But how many of us do?  Think about it.

The meaning for me, holds a little more.( Huh?) You see, because of my stroke, I can’t remember certain things.  Certainly can’t multi task, like I used to.  Can’t decipher your conversation, with the t.v. and radio going anymore.  No siree.  It just doesn’t happen.

But it’s not a problem for me.  I live with it.  Just compensate, I guess.  I know what I mean.  It’s just ‘everyone else’ that has the problem.   After all, my kids and my hubby can read my mind.  (Well, they should be able to by now.) “Bring me that thingy over there.” Or “Did you call ‘what’s his name’ about ‘that thing’.  (Don’t laugh, you know what I mean.  Don’t you?)

O.K.  Classic example.  Not everyone is a mind reader.  Granted, not everyone can blame their vague memory on their medical situation.  Nor should we take it for granted, that others know what we are talking about.

So, be specific, Kas, and ‘say what you mean’.  I hear that regularly mostly coming from my hubby and kids.  (Others just give you that look. Huh? I know what they’re thinking! Yup, what the hell is she talking about?)

But for me, that’s not the important stuff.  Nope, just petty shit.  What I mean is this.  The meaning goes deeper.  What do you think of when someone says ‘say what you mean and mean what you say’? Exactly!  Be genuine. Authentic. Be a doer, not a sayer!

If your kids ask you to come out and play basketball with them, and you say in a moment.  Do it.  Follow through on it. For if you don’t, it will come back to haunt you. So, live up to your expectations.  Good chances they will too.  When you say, you will be there at 9pm.  Be there!  Lead by example.  Don’t give them the opportunity to second guess you.  For when you say 9, they know it’s 9. 

Yup.  It all starts with   small things.  Think about it.  ‘Mom, can you come and support me and watch a couple hours of track and field?  Mom, can you watch me play wii/xbox for awhile?  Honey, come out on the deck and have a tea and talk to me for awhile.’  Whatever it is.  How important or trivial it is.  Every single time….

Say what you mean and most importantly, mean what you say.

Dr. Seuss knew this all too well. He said, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those that mind, don’t matter and those that matter, don’t mind.”

Always Expect Miracles,

Kassie Wright

Inspirational Author

tkwright@xplornet.ca

As always, I welcome your thoughts!

(My inspirational book and ebook, ‘Always, yes Always, EXPECT Miracles! Is now available through authorhouse, amazon, chapters or any major online bookstore worldwide.)

2 Things you NEVER talk about...

...Nope it's not a 'trick' question. Not a gender-based one either.  You know where the guys would answer, the 'feelings and relationship' thingy.  And the gals would say you never talk about 'love or past relationships'.  Forget that.  Not even close.

Maybe you're thinking along age-gradience query.  Hmmm. Let's see.  My father would say you never talk or ask somebuddy how much money they make.  But besides having proper etiquette.  What's the real answer?

I'll cut right to the chase.  Won't make you guess anymore.  It's Politics and Religion. Yup. Ohhh...  Now you see.  Since the beginning of time, arguments have been made over both.  Still and never- ending debates continue.

Even I refuse to talk on either subject. And I have a degree in Political Science.  I should know. Well that's leading a loaded question wouldn't you say? I'd be the first to say, no comment on both.  First, because it's not up for discussion. Second, because it is always opinion-based and subjective.

And lastly, and most importantly, because it's none of your business. I didn't say that, of course.  You just thought of it. 

Now what does 'Politics and Religion' have to do with inspiration, you ask.  Afterall, it's on my Inspirational Blog? The answer it quite simple.  And direct.  It's nothing and everything. Confused?

You see my friend, everything is based on faith.  Every human being belongs to a religion of some kind or another.  Whether it's prescribed or not. Or whether they know it or not. And  yes, whether they practice it or not.

And everyone tends to hold on to political views too.Whether they express them openly. Or quietly contemplate them.  It's hard to look the other way when everything seems to dictate a label on both... Religion and Politics. 

A much more empowering view leads me to believe in the political philosophy I once studied.  That of Socratic thought.  Always providing a question in response to a thought.  Or maybe reminising over Plato and Aristotles words.  That leads to me to leave with you, Aristotles words to ponder over.  Perhaps we will let his words save the day in our relentless internal battles over comments of Religion and Politics.

"It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." — Aristotle.

Always Expect Miracles,
Inspirational Author
Kassie Wright
tkwright@xplornet.ca

As always, I welcome your thoughts.

Are We Happy Yet?

Are we happy yet?

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Wednesday, August 26th, 2009 - 06:11:53 Reminds me of summer vacation in the car.  ‘Are we there yet?’ Every five minutes, the kids want to know are we closer to our destination.  Life is exactly like that, don’t you think? ‘It’s all about the Climb.’  Hannah Montanna knows it.  Or at least Billy Ray Cyrus does.  So do all the inspirational authors .  Hey, nearly everybody does.  Life is all about the journey. About the  trip.  So what’s the problem? Does everybody forget this along the way?  Good question. Really.  Think about it. You know your goal.  You do what you think is right to achieve your dream. Hell, you spend all of your life, steering in the direction of your end goal.  Yup, I’m going to be happy when… Finally you reach your destination.  You worked your whole life for this. This is it! Are we happy yet, you ask? Of course not!  We can pretend we are.  In fact we’d look pretty stupid to admit we weren’t.  But how many of us  worked our ass off  for our dream.  Finally got there.  And found we were barking up the wrong tree? Don’t be ashamed.  In fact, it happens to most people. Maybe the dream we were chasing wasn’t ours to begin with.  Perhaps we were so caught up in it, we were living someone elses’ dream.  Experts seem to think it’s all about ‘getting there.  Or living in the moment.  Yup that’s it.  Being consciously present. Enjoying what we’re doing now.  Not living in the future.  Or the past.  But for Now.  Easily said.  In fact, quite eloquently put.  But try it.  Sometimes it’s easier to work toward your dream and forget this. Ahh!  But that’s the Key!  That’s what life is all about.  And wouldn’t you like to know the secret, before you've spent all your life looking for it?  Are you ready for this?  Are you open to accept this?  Be prepared.  It’s so simple you may wonder if that’s all there is to it.  Okay I’ll tell you… Happiness is within you.  It’s not about money.  Laugh if you will.  Or spend your whole life in denial thinking I’m wrong.  Read this over when you get there.  Listen.  I’ll save you the grief. Millionaires  are still searching for this secret!  They are still trying to trade money for happiness.  It’s so simple.  Happiness can’t be bought. It has nothing to do with materialism.  Happiness is inner peace. It’s taking the time out of every day, every hour, every moment to enjoy life.  To appreciate things we take for granted.  Yes, smell the roses.  Walk through your garden.  Enjoy your tea.  Sit down on the garden bench.  Close your eyes. Smile.  Feel the peace within. And be happy we CAN experience this. And revisit this feeling as often as you can.  'Are We Happy Yet?'  Indeed! Always Expect Miracles! Inspirational Author Kassie Wright tkwright@xplornet.ca As always, I welcome your comments!